Wednesday, December 21, 2011

A Wife's Duty To Her Husband

The Messenger of Allah says this" Each of you is a Shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The man is the shepherd of his family and is responsible for his flock. The woman is the shepherd of her husbands household and is responsible for her flock. The servant is a shepherd of his masters wealth and is responsible for his flock." This was narrated by Abd-Allaah Ibn Umaar.
We are responsible for our husband's household. To take care of the home he has provided for his family. It was narrated by Imaan Al-Bukhaari that Faatimah(MABPWH), the daughter of the Messenger(PBUH), asked her father for a servant. He said to her"Shall I not tell you of something that is better for you then that?" When you go to sleep say Subhaa-Allah 33X,Al-HamduLillaah 33x, and Allahhu Akbar 34x. We are to take care of EVERYTHING that our husbands need for us to take care of. This is not to say that the husband should allow his wife to do EVERYTHING. So don't get me wrong here. I think, however, that if the husband is working and the wife is a stay at home mother then most of the work in the home falls on the wife.

We are to do the cleaning and cooking in our homes. Allah has given all what we need to do the many different jobs that are required of us.
Making sure our home is clean and that your home looks as nice as it can for your husband and that it pleases him when he returns home.
Always making sure he has clean clothes to wear and his children. We must obey our husbands in everything. This is an obligation. This is because the husband is the protector and maintainers. They are also the one who directs his wife and children. He also is the one who financially cares for her.
We must get in the habit of serving our husband and our home. I don't mean being a doormat but serve him as he takes care of you and the needs that you have. When our husbands come home to have a meal ready for him. When he asks for a drink to not huff and puff but to smile and serve him with joy.
A wife must also make herself available to her husband. He has the right to enjoy her physically. If a woman refuses to respond to her husband she has committed a major sin(unless she has a valid reason..menses,fasting, or sick) It is reported that if a wife refuses her husband and he goes to sleep angry the Angels will curse her until morning. Our husbands have a strong desire when it comes to intimacy. This is how Allah has made them and we NEED to be there and not allow them to commit haram.
Another thing in Islam we must do as wives is to not allow anyone in our homes that our husbands dislike.This is another right of his. We must obey this. We must watch over our flock and take care of our homes for Allah and our husbands.
Rising early to pray and get our day started in caring for our homes.
Preparing food and being wise about what we do with the food that our husband has provided for us. Caring for his children and being an attentive mother. Who teaches her children and not just putting them in front of the TV all day. Taking care to teach them Islam and Quran. Taking time to teach them education and preparing our boys to handle a family on their own and our daughters to handle a home on their own. I have so much more to share but thought I would start here. There will be more to come later, on the duties we as Muslim wives must do for our husbands and homes and Allah. Remember Allah has created you to do what He wants you to do. So whatever He has asked us to do He has also provided the tools we need to get the job done.


  1. Great Post - nice to have little reminders. Your newest follower, saw you via Traditional Muslimah Homemaker

    1. Thank you so much karima. Welcome! I have just had a new baby and haven't blogged much but inshaAllah I will get back into it.