Friday, December 30, 2011

A Muslim Woman Who Loves Allah

A Muslim woman is Allah fearing and one who prays and fasts. One who is dignified and observes hijab. A woman who is trustworthy and loyal. She seeks reward from Allah and repents to Him.
A Muslim woman remembers Allah and gives thanks to Him and calls upon Him. She keeps away from forbidden things.
She has a beautiful smile that sends a message of warmth and friendliness to others around her. Her words are kind and keeps friendships that are permitted in Islam. She sits with her Quran,reciting it and pondering it's meaning. She keeps her mind remembering Allah rather than things that are forbidden.
A Muslim woman doesn't waste time and doesn't give in to physical pleasure and giving into every whim and desire.She doesn't dwell on mistakes and things that have happened in the past. She is clean and organized in herself and her work as a mother and wife. She doesn't wast money on haram things but thinks about how to spend her money in a wise way. She reads useful and beneficial books that will not only help herself but her children and husband.
She raises her children in Islam and is modest with herself. She strives to be what Allah wants her to be and not what the world wants from her. She strives for Jenna and helps her family also strive for Jenna. She is a beautiful Muslim woman!

Thursday, December 29, 2011

Doing A Job You Love

Do you love what you do? I do! I love being a full time wife and mother of 5. It is what I dreamed about when I was little. I played dolls and would pretend I was a mommy and would clean my house, feed my family, dress and rock my dolls. I loved playing "house." Now that I am an adult I still love being a wife and mother and doing all that is required of me.
I love creating a home that I love as well as my family will love.I don't believe you have to have the most beautiful house on the block to have a home that you love. It's what you make it and if when you look at it, it makes YOU happy.

I love planning meals and daily tasks that need to be done or made. It makes my life more workable. I love to search for new recipes and making them for my family and having them smile because they love it so much. :)

I love to clean my home. Yes, it is hard work and sometimes I just don't feel like cleaning AGAIN! However, when I am done cleaning and I can stand back and look at what I have done, I feel so much better about my home and myself. I also know that the rest of my family loves it too.

I love to cook and preparing meals for my family. I also love to share what I make with others. I think sharing a meal with your own family or a guest brings people closer together. It warms people up,cheers someone who has had a bad day, and lets others know you care about them because you took the time to make something THEY like.
I love what I do! I think that if you do what you love it brings joy to your heart and keeps away stress and even illness. When you are happy your body reacts to that. When you are always stressed and mad and are just plain not happy with your life your body will react to that but in a bad way. Being a full time wife and mother,I believe, is what Allah wants me to do. It is what He created for me to be. I am earning reward from Allah while trying to do my best as a wife and mother. Allah has given me all the tools that I need to do the job that He created for me to do. He has given me the desire to do my job, the mind to think of creative ways to make my home and family better. He has even allowed for me the ability to do research on how to do my job in the best way I can. I read books on cooking decorating. I also read how Allah wants my home to be. How He wants me to raise my children and how to be the wife He would be pleased with. I know that I am not perfect but that is what He is there for. I can go to my Creator and ask forgiveness and try again. Allah has created each of us to do something different. Some of us are mothers while some are teachers, evene doctors. Yes, I think Allah calls some of us women to be something other than full time mothers. Why? I think because we women need to have someone to go to when we are sick or having a baby. Or how about a hairdresser. We women need someone to go to when we need our hair done. So we all have our part in this life and we must do what Allah wants from us. Serving Him the way He wants us to serve. I also believe that our first priority is our families and husbands. Many women can work right from their home serving the other women in their community. Do what you love. You will be more happier, less stressed, and willing to gain more reward. Why? Because you have a passion to be the best at what you love.

Monday, December 26, 2011

A New Year!!

Are you getting ready for the next year 2012? I know I am. I am already working on some goals for myself. I already have my planner picked out for 2012. Take a look at  I just found out about this planner and am planning on using it for 2012.
Maybe your planning on becoming more organized in your home and trying to be more schedule with your routine.
Maybe you want to learn to cook more and be more efficient in the kitchen. Planning meals or building a pantry.
Or maybe you are going on a diet or want to eat better and more healthier. Making better foods for you and your family.
Exercising more often to loose weight or just become more in shape so you are able to do your work better and with more energy around your home.
Whatever your organizing goals may be lets not forget that we must also organize things concerning our deen.
We need to organize things like taking time out to learn Quran and teaching our children Quran as well. Or at least finding a way so that they may do this. How about gaining more knowledge about a certain subject in Islam and then asking for guidance from Allah to make the change in our lives. Teaching and educating our children in Islam. This is a BIG project in our lives as mothers. We MUST teach our children about Islam. Not just about praying but about what will happen when you die, things about Jenna and the Hellfire. The ways of the Prophet(SAS) and the way he lived his life. What Allah likes and dislikes from us.
I often listen to lectures on You Tube. I like to listen to lectures more than I like to read. I LOVE reading don't get me wrong but sometimes I like to just sit with a cup of tea and listen to a lecture. I will usually do this in the morning or at night when my children are sleeping and my husband is working late. How about pick a book or two to read for the year 2012 and make one for gaining knowledge and the other to give you daily reminders about Islam. Learn how to become a better wife according to the wives of the Prophet(SAS). Or learn how the Prophet(SAS) lived his life and then follow what he did in your own life. Or learn about proper hijab and implement it in your life. Whatever your goals are for this next year first plan some goals for your deen and then more onto your goals for your personal life and don't forget family goals as well. InshaAllah everyone will have a wonderful,challenging,and learn more about Islam this year. Have a great 2012!!

Friday, December 23, 2011


In Islam we are to treat our husbands in a good manner. I think of this in a way like if I had a guest in my home how would I treat that person. First, I would be VERY respectful,speak in a kind way,serving them,laughing with them, giving them my full attention,and making sure that when they were in my home they would want to come back.
We must be respectful to our husbands. This is what Allah has required for us to do. This is a right that our husbands have. When we have a guest in our home we do this without even thinking about it. Even if you don't really like the person you still show respect to them. Even if you don't agree with what the person is saying you still show respect to them. We should do this for our husbands. We may not always like what they say but we should always respect them. We always speak in a kind way to our guests. We should be speaking first in this manner to our husbands. We are not perfect but we should strive to do what Allah has asked for us to do.
We should serve them. When someone comes to your home you serve them without them even asking for anything. We should do the same for our husbands. Yes, of course, things get in the way sickness and children but we should strive to do this. Laughing with them and giving them our full attention. When they come home we should be in a good mood or at least try to be. We would be in a good mood if we had guests over to our home. Why not then for our husbands? We should also give them our full attention. Now of course, we have children but we can take some time to hear about their day and talk about problems they may have. I know I have sat many times and helped worked through problems that my husband was having at work. You would do the same if you had a guest over and they were opening up to you about something they were going through at the time. Making our home comfortable for our husbands. This way they want to be there with you. They want to come home to you. Treating our husbands in a good manner means many different things. Being a good hostess means many different things but we do all that we can to make sure we are on our best behaviour when guests arrive. We should do the same for our husbands who care,love,protect, and provide for us and our children.

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

A Wife's Duty To Her Husband

The Messenger of Allah says this" Each of you is a Shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The man is the shepherd of his family and is responsible for his flock. The woman is the shepherd of her husbands household and is responsible for her flock. The servant is a shepherd of his masters wealth and is responsible for his flock." This was narrated by Abd-Allaah Ibn Umaar.
We are responsible for our husband's household. To take care of the home he has provided for his family. It was narrated by Imaan Al-Bukhaari that Faatimah(MABPWH), the daughter of the Messenger(PBUH), asked her father for a servant. He said to her"Shall I not tell you of something that is better for you then that?" When you go to sleep say Subhaa-Allah 33X,Al-HamduLillaah 33x, and Allahhu Akbar 34x. We are to take care of EVERYTHING that our husbands need for us to take care of. This is not to say that the husband should allow his wife to do EVERYTHING. So don't get me wrong here. I think, however, that if the husband is working and the wife is a stay at home mother then most of the work in the home falls on the wife.

We are to do the cleaning and cooking in our homes. Allah has given all what we need to do the many different jobs that are required of us.
Making sure our home is clean and that your home looks as nice as it can for your husband and that it pleases him when he returns home.
Always making sure he has clean clothes to wear and his children. We must obey our husbands in everything. This is an obligation. This is because the husband is the protector and maintainers. They are also the one who directs his wife and children. He also is the one who financially cares for her.
We must get in the habit of serving our husband and our home. I don't mean being a doormat but serve him as he takes care of you and the needs that you have. When our husbands come home to have a meal ready for him. When he asks for a drink to not huff and puff but to smile and serve him with joy.
A wife must also make herself available to her husband. He has the right to enjoy her physically. If a woman refuses to respond to her husband she has committed a major sin(unless she has a valid reason..menses,fasting, or sick) It is reported that if a wife refuses her husband and he goes to sleep angry the Angels will curse her until morning. Our husbands have a strong desire when it comes to intimacy. This is how Allah has made them and we NEED to be there and not allow them to commit haram.
Another thing in Islam we must do as wives is to not allow anyone in our homes that our husbands dislike.This is another right of his. We must obey this. We must watch over our flock and take care of our homes for Allah and our husbands.
Rising early to pray and get our day started in caring for our homes.
Preparing food and being wise about what we do with the food that our husband has provided for us. Caring for his children and being an attentive mother. Who teaches her children and not just putting them in front of the TV all day. Taking care to teach them Islam and Quran. Taking time to teach them education and preparing our boys to handle a family on their own and our daughters to handle a home on their own. I have so much more to share but thought I would start here. There will be more to come later, on the duties we as Muslim wives must do for our husbands and homes and Allah. Remember Allah has created you to do what He wants you to do. So whatever He has asked us to do He has also provided the tools we need to get the job done.

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Be Not Wasteful!!

As a Muslim wife and mother we must not waste. Allah(SWT) does not like the one who is wasteful. We must watch what we throw away and what we save and do more saving than throwing. I struggle with this a lot and am trying myself to perfect this in my life as a Muslim.
I think when we have leftovers we can do so many different things with that food. Many times we have leftovers in our home. I will most of the time use it for lunch or dinner the next night. This way I get a free night of NO COOKING!!! :)
I ALWAYS have leftover bread. Well, there are so many things you can do with leftover bread. Use it for toast the next morning for breakfast. I have even broke mine into small pieces and put it in the freezer to add to meatloaf or meatballs. You can also break your bread drizzle it with olive oil and sprinkle it with some garlic salt and bake it in the oven for some homemade chips. Then dip it in some salsa. A very nice treat. You have to do this with leftover pita bread, though, not regular bread. However, you can make your own croutons for salad with regular bread. Just cut it into cubes and bake it or fry it and there ya go!!
Leftover meat can be used in a soup or stew. I do this often. I will take my leftover meat and throw it into my crock pot and add some veggies,pot, and spices and set it on low and let it cook the day away. Again another free day of no cooking for me. You can also take leftover chicken and make chicken salad for the next days lunch.
I will often give my husband whatever we had for dinner for his lunch the next day. This way he can have a hot meal for his mid day meal and keeps him going.
I also like to freeze soups when I make them and have them ready for a night when I am not in the mood to cook. All I have to do is pull out my frozen soup in the morning an let it thaw and then when it's time for dinner just make a pot of rice and dinner is served.
We need to please Allah even with our food. Save and use it. Not only will you save money but you will be doing what Allah has asked for you to do.

Sunday, December 18, 2011

Good Afternoon Everyone!!

We are going into another week and thought I would share this with you all. This comes from the book " You Can Be The happiest Woman In The World." It says"Man finds happiness in a word that comes from the lips of a woman." Do you speak kind words to your husband? Or does your husband wish you wouldn't even open your mouth? Are you gentle when you speak to him? Or are you harsh and mean? Do you speak words that draw him closer to you? Or do you speak words that has made him loose his love for you? Do you speak words that make him think of you all day? Or do you speak words that makes him think of someone else all day? Be a wife that your husband finds happiness in the way you speak and makes him want to hear more from you. Have a great week everyone and be the best wife you can for Allah and your husband. Remember he is your Jenna!!

Saturday, December 17, 2011

Rising Early Or Sleeping Late?

Do you get up early or sleep late? Part of living a Muslim life we MUST get ourselves into the practice of getting up early and observing the Fajr salah.
In Al Bukhari and Muslim Abu Musa(ABPH) reported that the Messenger of Allah(SAS) said" He who observes Al-Bardan(Fajr) and Asr will enter Jenna. Knowing this hadith why wouldn't you want to get up and preform this Salah? Knowing that it will protect you from the hell fire?
In Muslim Jundub Bin Sufyan(ABPH) reported that the Messenger of Allah (SAS) said" He who offers the Fajr salah will come under the protection of Allah. O son of Adam! Beware, lest Allah should call you to account in any respect from(for withdrawing) His protection. We should show energy when we perform our Fajr salah. Getting up a little before the athan and performing wudu. This in itself will wake you up and get you ready to show that energy that Allah wants from you and not to be half asleep. Taking this time while everything is quiet and starting your day with Allah. I don't know how more of a beautiful way to start the day than in bowing before your Creator. We also will gain Allah's protection for that day. What better way to be protected from all harm. 
In Al-bukhari and Muslim Abu Hurairah(ABPH) reported that the Messenger of Allah (SAS) said "There are Angels who take turns in visiting you by night and by day and they all assemble at the dawn(Fajr) and Asr salah. Those who have spent the night with you,ascend to the heaven and their Rubb,who knows better then them, asks"In what condition did you leave my slaves?" They reply " We left them while they were performing salah and we went to them while they were performing salah." Isn't this how you want the Angels to speak of you? I know I do. During this early morning time is a time to reflect on your day and read or learn a surah, which will allow you to gain even more reward from Allah.)
Also during this time take a little time for yourself and sit quietly and be still. Have a cup of tea alone and quiet. Make dua to your Rubb.
This is also a time you as a mother can take some time and have a meal alone. Without always hearing "MOM!" I know I like to have a meal here and there alone when it's only me and I can eat and have a quiet moment. Also, I think it's so special that Allah has allowed for us many ways to enter Jenna. This is one of them. Going to bed at a time when you know you will get plenty of rest and able to rise early to give to Allah. InshAllah if you don't get up early and start your day with Allah you will change after reading this.

Friday, December 16, 2011

Islamic Library

Do you have an Islamic library in your home? I am starting one and have been working on mine for awhile now. I think it's very important to have one in your home. One that adults and children can read from.
I am working on Islamic books for children. I have books that I can give away to new Muslims and books that I can lend out to people who are wanting to know more about Islam.
I have a few Qurans in my home. Small ones that children can hold and follow along with while an adult reads. I have hadiths books and the book about Chief Sins. I have books on death and dua books. I have daily devotional books. One of my favorite is "Don't Be Sad." I love this book and have reread it many times. I also have books on issues dealing with women. I also think it's good to have a few web sites so that adults and children can learn from. One that I follow is I also listen to lectures on YouTube. What do you have in your library? Happy reading!!